Relationships are beautiful when we are with the right person. However sometimes the person we are with may seem like the right person, but the relationship on the other hand may not seem right perhaps, because either of you aren’t mentally mature enough to handle a serious relationship. In that case, we are safe to say that you are in an unhealthy relationship that needs some checks and balances. If your past relationships were full of games and deceit, you might bring baggage from the past into the present, but if you want to move forward with someone and have a long, solid relationship, it’s important that you recognize one quality – Maturity.
Here are some vital signs that you’re in a healthy and mature relationship-
Resolved Fights
Not only do you fight less in this relationship, when a fight does break out, it’s a clean one. Your arguments work toward resolving issues and solving problems, while still appreciating each other’s feelings and needs instead of yelling and talking over each other, you give yourself time to calm down and express how you feel without belittling the other person.
Personal Space/Time
Some partners are extremely clingy and want to be together every minute of the day. Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you have to spend every moment together. Everyone needs space. As you become older and start establishing mature relationships, you’ll understand the importance of giving your partner space, and taking space for yourself. You have a life outside the relationship, so don’t feel bad about hanging out with your friends or family alone, or exploring personal interests. Taking time to pursue your own interest and friendship keeps your relationship fresh and gives you both the opportunity to grow as individuals—even while you’re growing as a couple.
Arguments are Normal
Disagreements are normal, so if you aren’t fighting, chances are you’re holding back, but when people in healthy relationships fight, it clearly shows that you are two different people with two different opinions and viewpoints, thus you disagree productively and fairly. That means avoiding name-calling or talk-downs. It also means striving to understand your partner instead of making false assumptions and when you’re wrong? You apologize. Couple have arguments. However, if you notice that arguments in your current relationship are too often and pointless, then it is a sign that you’re in an immature and unhealthy relationship.
Communication
Sincere and good communication is like the heart beat in any relationship. If there is no communication, there can’t be an understanding and if there is no understanding then there is no trust. If you’re in a mature, healthy relationship, you and your partner communicate in a way that builds each other up and strengthens the relationship. There are no insults or disrespectful words. If you learn that your partner doesn’t like the way you talk to him, you make an effort to change the behaviour.
You Share a Passion for Your Future Together
Ever met the guy who just isn’t interested in “settling down”? If you’re dating that guy, you’re doing yourself a disservice. In the right relationship both partners are enthusiastic about a future together and while not everything lasts forever, partners who share a vision for what their future entails are in a much better position than partners who don’t, or worse, don’t even discuss the topic.
Selflessness
A selfish or one-sided relationship is not healthy or mature. If you think about your partner’s feelings more than yours, and if you’re more than happy to put his needs ahead of your own and vice versa, the relationship will likely get stronger and you’ll become a closer couple. Relationships don’t work when people only care about their personal needs.
There are many other signs of a mature relationship, but these are a few to get you started. Look over the list and do a relationship check. Does your relationship show signs of being immature? Are there areas you need to improve? In the end, have it in mind that your relationship is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.
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Culled from HF MAGAZINE
Posted by Jamal
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