I Wish Someone Had Told Me - Part 5

This is from the angle of a prospectively single and working-class lady.










I wish someone had told me that:


1. Loosing your virginity before marriage is not a guarantee that the guy you loose it to will marry you. Some guys will tell you so many sweet lies and you will only believe them if you are a novice.


2. If you are not married before 30, family members will start thinking it's spiritual and start telling you to go for deliverance to break the yoke of delayed marriage. (Majority of them will recommend MFM)


3. Your married female friends will stop being friends with you as soon as they are married. You will just seem like bad egg all of a sudden and honestly, this makes you feel more pathetic for your already pathetic self.


4. It's very depressing when your younger siblings/cousins/nieces/nephews are getting married and you can't attend because of the shame of been confronted with people asking what's wrong with you and why you are still single.


5. I would get my heart broken a lot when i start dating. It would have prepared me better if i knew this earlier.


6. I would value the NYSC allowance i used to receive Immediately after youths service, when i was without a job. We used to call the allowance "chicken change" but after youths service that i was without a job, i began to wish i had saved my "chicken change" for life after service without a job (I lavished my NYSC allowances on nonsense).


7. Living alone as a single lady [even though you have a honest means of living] passes a wrong signal about you to people around you: no matter how good of a person you are.


8. If you live alone as a single lady, guys who will come your way will barely shower you with any gift as they believe you are doing just fine. They will never cease to call you "big girl". Even if you are dying, they will expect you as the supposed big girl to resurrect yourself.


9. If you have a female colleague or friend who is into "runs", don't try to talk them out of it. You will be seen as a "hater" or a jealous person. People into runs never want to hear the truth. As long as you don't flaunt the hotel lobby, designers hand bags and exotic flight trips they do on bbm/instagram, you are a hater.


10. In the course of my employment hunt, i would get a lot of sexual advances from men in return for a good job.


11. If you live alone as a single lady, people (neighbours especially) will come around you a lot to borrow money. Some will even expect you to "dash" them like you don't have your own responsibilities and expenses.


12. As a single lady, you can't go to the club, bars or lounges on your own without been seen as a prostitute or a lady hoping for some guys to approach her.


13. You can't tell a guy you are bored. He will take you out, get rid of the boredom for you and expect you to follow him home to pay him back in kind. In fact, the ones who take you out are very kind. Majority will tell you to come over to their house, so they can have sex with you.



Anonymous BV

Culled from SDKblog

Posted by Jamal