HELP ! HIS GIRLFRIEND ALMOST DIED DURING SEX

Please I need some pieces of advice from matured minds. I met this young beautiful damsel about two weeks ago. We exchanged phone numbers and we started working things out on phone.

Six days ago, she came visiting with a younger girl. We just cracked some jokes together, watched some movies, had lengthy conversation and she left.
Her next visit was 4 days ago, which she came all alone. I was so happy, as I was thinking of visiting her honey pot which didn't happen that day, we did everything except sex as she said she was not ready to give me that day. I had earlier learnt she is having her SIWES programme in that town, and would end it by December, so I need not to put her in a rush, knowing my time would come soon.

She promised to be around again on Saturday. At about 10am she arrived again. After some play we left for bedroom, started kissing and she willingly allowed me to pull off her trousers. As I wanted to penetrate, she made some sounds which I thought was normal due to the penetration. Before I could even penetrate, she fainted.

I didn't know what to do, I was so confused and afraid. It was as if she was dead, no part of the body was moving, no supply of oxygen! I have had sex with many girls without such occurrence. I have not even seen such but I only heard about it occasionally.

I shouted, wailed, cried but she was not moving. My neighbor in the other flat had travelled to Minna on Friday and my place is far from where I could get a transit system.

I thought of what I could do, I couldn't even think, memory blurred. I went straight to the bathroom, brought out a pail of water poured it all over her, began to beat, slap her, praying, confused, blowing air into her ears, pressing her cheeks, doing all what I could do.

Suddenly, she came to life but couldn't talk. I tried to make her sit or stand she could not, she was weak. I wanted to take her to the hospital, but her body, cloth, undies were soaked with water I poured on her, only her trouser which I pulled off earlier was dry, and besides there was no vehicle at my disposal. I tried to make her sit directly opposite the fan, away from the bed on the rug. She couldn't still move her hands well, tired still, and couldn't talk, couldn't open her mouth. I pressed her cheeks, difficult to open her mouth.

Again she fainted the second time, lying like a dead person. Again, I poured her more water, beat her, did all kind of things, prayed. Again she regained consciousness but couldn't still talk. I pressed her cheeks so hard, she cried. I made her to talk by force. She was weak, I made her to stand with my support. She would want to lose her mind again, but I would slap her and would come back. I made sure I didn't allow her to rest, I engaged her with talk which she was too tired to reply.

After sometime, I took her to the bathroom, bath her, didn't allow her to sit, she asked for water but I didn't give her. She told me she was cold I put off the fan. She began to feel conscious and could identify me and talk again.

I told her we would visit a general hospital, and she refused saying she was okay. She needed rest, but I didn't allow her to sleep, because I was afraid she might lose consciousness again.

At about 3pm, she has started to feel much better. I was happy to hear she was hungry, I fried plantain, and cooked noodles. She ate so well, and spread her cloth outside to dry. After eating, she was feeling sleepy, I was afraid to allow her sleep. We moved to the living room because everywhere in the bedroom was soaked with water. She laid on the tiles and slept but I was with her monitoring her, though I knew she was conscious enough. I woke her up at some minutes past 5. She was looking as agile as before.

It was just by the Grace of God, I don't know where I would have been. God indeed intervened, despite being a sinner, he heard my supplication and cry.

After she was awake and feeling fine again. I asked about her past similar experience. She later made me to understand that she had a similar experience with her first boyfriend, and even her second boyfriend and that I was the third person. She concluded that the reason is that she's afraid of sex. I don't believe that, I think there's more to it. And I also inquired if she has ever told her parents or elders sisters about that, she said no, that she's always afraid to tell them because she's only 20 and they would scold her.

I instructed her and gave her transport fare to travel home yesterday, Sunday in other to inform her parents, she initially refused but later admitted to do that. She later felt better on that Saturday and left my place at about 6:30pm.

Please people, have you heard of this kind of situation? What do i do? Will it affect me in any way

WHY DO MOST GUYS DUMP A LADY AFTER SLEEPING WITH HER?

 

Reasons Why You Should Not Blame Guys For Dumping Ladies After Getting Under Their Skirts

1. She Doesn’t Have A Good Record
Ladies, are you aware that guys make research before wooing you? Ooooh yes !!! They might ask quite a few numbers of people who know you well but may not be in talking terms with you. When he gets a negative report like, that babe sure gan oooooo, na so she dey park men up and down.. My dear, to be frank, if he doesn’t have church mind, he will also want to mark register cheesy

2. She’s Deceitful
Who likes to mingle with a deceitful lady ?
A lady who deceives a guy with padded bra and pant will definitely bite her fingers at the end of the day. If he later gets to know that your bosoms and buttocks are as flat as 2B exercise book, never blame him if he dumps your ass aftermath of love making

3. She Lied About Being A Virgin
Guys hate when ladies lie about being virgins. If you lie about being a virgin and he later gets to know that you are as wide as Lagos-Ibadan expressway after two years of celibacy. He will definitely zoom off at Usain Bolt pace
4. She Turned Him Into A Magad
My research and finding have shown that when a guy pays your bill out of his kind gesture and he realizes you go about telling people that he’s a maga. He will treat you like a money (use of banaba) and waves goodbye the moment he gets under your skirt

5. She Acts Like A Peacock
Guys love ladies who give them tough time but your shakara must be done with moderation or else, your excess pride, shakara and yanga will make him dump your ass after the deed. He might just like, upon all my stress and dis girl yeye shakara, no be she I bleep so  Upon say she make everything hard as LASU Post UME exam cheesy



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I Wish Someone Had Told Me - Part 5

This is from the angle of a prospectively single and working-class lady.










I wish someone had told me that:


1. Loosing your virginity before marriage is not a guarantee that the guy you loose it to will marry you. Some guys will tell you so many sweet lies and you will only believe them if you are a novice.


2. If you are not married before 30, family members will start thinking it's spiritual and start telling you to go for deliverance to break the yoke of delayed marriage. (Majority of them will recommend MFM)


3. Your married female friends will stop being friends with you as soon as they are married. You will just seem like bad egg all of a sudden and honestly, this makes you feel more pathetic for your already pathetic self.


4. It's very depressing when your younger siblings/cousins/nieces/nephews are getting married and you can't attend because of the shame of been confronted with people asking what's wrong with you and why you are still single.


5. I would get my heart broken a lot when i start dating. It would have prepared me better if i knew this earlier.


6. I would value the NYSC allowance i used to receive Immediately after youths service, when i was without a job. We used to call the allowance "chicken change" but after youths service that i was without a job, i began to wish i had saved my "chicken change" for life after service without a job (I lavished my NYSC allowances on nonsense).


7. Living alone as a single lady [even though you have a honest means of living] passes a wrong signal about you to people around you: no matter how good of a person you are.


8. If you live alone as a single lady, guys who will come your way will barely shower you with any gift as they believe you are doing just fine. They will never cease to call you "big girl". Even if you are dying, they will expect you as the supposed big girl to resurrect yourself.


9. If you have a female colleague or friend who is into "runs", don't try to talk them out of it. You will be seen as a "hater" or a jealous person. People into runs never want to hear the truth. As long as you don't flaunt the hotel lobby, designers hand bags and exotic flight trips they do on bbm/instagram, you are a hater.


10. In the course of my employment hunt, i would get a lot of sexual advances from men in return for a good job.


11. If you live alone as a single lady, people (neighbours especially) will come around you a lot to borrow money. Some will even expect you to "dash" them like you don't have your own responsibilities and expenses.


12. As a single lady, you can't go to the club, bars or lounges on your own without been seen as a prostitute or a lady hoping for some guys to approach her.


13. You can't tell a guy you are bored. He will take you out, get rid of the boredom for you and expect you to follow him home to pay him back in kind. In fact, the ones who take you out are very kind. Majority will tell you to come over to their house, so they can have sex with you.



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Culled from SDKblog

Posted by Jamal

Amy George Has An Educative Topic today!! "SEX" Find Out What You Never Knew!!!

Can there be a relationship without sex?

There's no relationship without sex contrary to what so many people have been made to believe especially the young ones(female). So many people have sited the fact that some people have succeeded in it but I say to you no one have succeeded in it, this might sound strange to you but its the truth, the only truth there is this "if you don't want sex don't be in a relationship"

Some people will buy into this idea but still question the rationale behind it; some people might say they've seen it happen in the course of reading this but has it really happened?.

Let's break it down:
Sex can mean any of this kissing, masturbation, mutual masturbation, fingering, fore-play, non-penetrative sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, smoothing.

Now ask yourself can you be in an intimate relationship without engaging in any of this?

If you say yes, then it means you are not in an intimate relationship because the love you have for your partner will cause you to have feelings which brings about intimacy.

"Just because you're not having penetrative sex does not mean you are not having sex"

You need to have sex to commit fornication the act of committing fornication isn't until you have penetrative sex or any of those form of sex mentioned earlier I think Christians will agree with me that all it takes to commit fornication is for you to look and lust in your heart which means mere looking and lusting in your heart shows you've had sex within you.

Now again ask yourself is it possible to be in an intimate relationship without lusting after your partner in your heart the answer is no.

So if you don't want to have sex in a relationship don't be in one

Saying you and your partner have both agreed not to have sex in your relationship does not make sense it only shows how misinformed you are or have been.

Remember just because you are not having "penetrative sex" in your relationship doesn't mean you are not indulging in other form of sex. However There's the courtship stage you don't have to be in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship to get to the courtship stage so rather opt for that option.



Posted by Jamal

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